Although the universality of basic human emotions has been recognized i, the role, function, and importance of emotional intelligence are often undermined. Emotional Intelligence is a social skill that can help you become more aware and tactful in understanding handling your own emotions as well as the emotions of others.
Humans are wired to be on the lookout for the thing that wants to eat us next. But the audience at your next presentation is not, in fact, a bunch of razor-toothed animals. They generally want to see you do well.
What’s your phobia? Spiders? Snakes? Are you scared of the dark? Whatever your bugaboo, I have some good news: According to a recent study, you might be able to get over your phobia… fast. “But why would I want to get over my phobia?” you might be asking.
Fear can be adaptive, as noticing and avoiding potential dangers in the environment has obvious survival benefits. Yet, for some people, excessive fear and hyper-vigilance for threats can interfere with adaptive functioning, even developing into an anxiety disorder.
After starting my low carb and no added sugar diet, I realized that the sugar withdrawal was making me get headaches at first. For years I ate sugar like it was going out of style. I LOVED SUGAR! It literally made me feel good. In addition, I was a carb addict. I ate so much processed food that eventually turned into sugar. My body was on sugar overload or insulin overload.
I was diagnosed with a Fatty Infiltrated Liver a few years ago but never really understood what that meant. I remember during that time I was eating tons of junk food (wings, nachos, candy etc.) My doctor did tell me that I had to stop eating so much junk food but that was all he told me. He really did not explain what this meant.
Since my body has been changing on this diet, my brain has also been adjusting. I was waking up with a bit of a foggy head. Now anytime I have an issue or something is happening in my life, I like to do research. I started looking into the effects of sugar.
After watching this documentary I finally understood why i needed to stop consuming added sugar. I never understood this. I have lived my entire life consuming extreme amounts of sugar and never ever knew what it was doing to me. How could this be? How could no one have told me this? I have dieted before but never eliminated sugar. How is that possible? I was shocked. I felt like the world needs to know this. Sugar was not only making me fat but it was making my head cloudy.
It wasn’t like someone told me to stop eating sugar and that is why I stopped. I needed to understand WHY. Some teachers teach a subject but do not let us know why it is important to learn the subject.
What else did I learn from this book? I learned that I needed to consume more Omega 3’s. I always heard that consuming Omegas were good for you but did not know which one was good and which one was not so good. I thought both Omega 3 and 6 were good but after reading this book, I am sticking to Omega 3’s. According to Dr. Dow, Omega 3’s help our brain and we should try to avoid Omega 6’s as much as possible. Below is the one that I bought from Whole Foods that I am taking. This Omega 3 helps to improve your mood.
Dr. Dow talks about how we may be able to prevent Dementia and Alzheimer’s. He also talks about being able to strengthen your brain by paying attention to the way you eat and how much you exercise your brain.
This book is a must read if you are working on you.
“A new epidemic is sweeping the country. Some people call it ADHD, scatter brain, or brain fog. Some simply say they just don’t feel like themselves – and haven’t for a long time. People are thinking and feeling worse than ever. Why? Because our brains are not getting the support they need to produce the essential brain chemicals that keep us energized, calm, focused, and inspired. In fact if you look at the way most of us live, it’s almost as though we’ve chosen a lifestyle deliberately intended to undermine our brain chemistry.
Fortunately there is a solution. The Brain Fog Fix is a three-week program designed to help you naturally restore three of your brain’s most crucial chemicals: serotonin, dopamine, and cortisol. Rebalancing these three brain chemicals will, in turn, enable the rest of your brain’s chemistry to reach optimal levels. You will find yourself thinking more clearly, remembering more accurately, learning more quickly, and unleashing the floodgates of your creativity. You will also find yourself feeling more optimistic, calm, energized, connected, and inspired. The good news is that this is easier than you think. Instead of trying to ambitiously overhaul one aspect of your life entirely with some difficult-to-maintain resolution, begin by making small and achievable changes in many different areas of your life.
“If I’ve learned one thing from the thousands of people I’ve treated, it’s that you have to take the whole person into account if you want to think and feel better.” (Dr. Mike Dow)” (audible.com)
This is pretty interesting. Have you ever heard of the term “Alexithymia”?
“Our profession has a fancy term for men who are unable to identify and speak about their feelings. It’s called alexithymia. The term derives from the Greek and literally means “without words for emotions.” Practically speaking alexithymia captures a group of men who have great difficulty identifying and putting into words what goes on inside of them. Frequently, I find such men rely heavily on logic and rationality to tackle their personal problems. While intellect can certainly be helpful in many areas of life (such as the ability to stay cool in a crisis situation), it can also get in the way, particularly in men’s personal relationships. Often men who depend exclusively on their intellect to address problems end up isolating themselves – paradoxically, at the time when they are most in need of help.”
Alexithymia is a personality construct characterized by the subclinical inability to identify and describe emotions in the self. The core characteristics of alexithymia are marked dysfunction in emotional awareness, social attachment, and interpersonal relating. Furthermore, people with alexithymia have difficulty in distinguishing and appreciating the emotions of others, which is thought to lead to unempathic and ineffective emotional responding.
I remember when my dad was in the hospital after a minor stroke. My mom, sister and I were so worried about him. We stayed in the hospital with him by his side to make sure he was okay.
We all ended up going home to get some rest after a day or two of not sleeping. We were tired.
After resting we went back to the hospital to check on my dad and he had checked himself out of the hospital and was super mad at the nurses and doctors there. I was sick to my stomach.
We see him outside and I’m so upset and I tell him to get into my car. I even think he told me he wanted to smoke! Really? After having a stroke? I couldn’t take it.
I drove them all home and left because i needed to be alone. I had to do something about the fact that my dad’s stroke was affecting me and he didn’t even care. Why did I care so much if he didn’t care about how he was making us feel?
I decided to drive to one of my peaceful places, Borders. I think they went out of business but they were open during that time. I go into Borders and buy this Audiobook. I needed something positive and this is what i chose.
I got myself a cup of coffee at Starbucks and went to my car and since i did not want to go back home, I stayed in my car for the duration of the audiobook.
The Dalai Lama helped me re-focus my energy. I was so frustrated and felt angry at my dad. After listening to this audiobook and the wisdom of The Dalai Lama it helped me see things differently. I started focusing more on me and less on my dad.
Happiness takes work. You must be determined to be happy. You can have so many things in your life that can cause you pain and suffering but it is critical for you to be hyperaware of happiness.
Sometimes the people that are closest to you can bring you down and cause you to feel so many emotions like guilt and shame but this is where your mind must take over. Realizing that it is so important for you to take care of you is the key. Without you being okay, it is very hard for you to take care of others. The center of your universe has to be you. Everyone else will benefit from you taking care of you.
“The Dalai Lama is probably one of the only people who, if you ask him if he’s happy, even though he’s suffered the loss of his country, will give you an unconditional “yes.” What’s more, he’ll tell you that happiness is the purpose of life, and the “the very motion of our life is toward happiness.” How to get there has always been the question. He’s tried to answer it before, but he’s never had the help of a psychiatrist to get the message across in a context we can easily understand.
Through meditation, stories, and the meeting of Buddhism and psychology, the Dalai Lama shows us how to defeat day-to-day depression, anxiety, anger, jealousy, or just an ordinary bad mood. He discusses relationships, health, family, work, and spirituality to show us how to ride through life’s obstacles on a deep, abiding source of inner peace. Based on 2,500 years of Buddhist meditations and with a healthy dose of common sense, The Art of Happiness is a program that crosses the boundaries of all traditions to help listeners with the difficulties common to all human beings.” (audible.com)