Mind

The Aftermath of Childhood Sexual Abuse

The Aftermath of Childhood Sexual Abuse

Sexual abuse leaves many scars, creating feelings of guilt, anger, and fear that haunt survivors throughout their lives. Adults who have undergone sexual abuse as children commonly experience depression and insomnia. High levels of anxiety in these adults can result in self-destructive behaviors, such as alcoholism or drug abuse, anxiety attacks, and situation-specific anxiety disorders.

Originally posted 2016-11-17 13:27:31.

Mind

Childhood Sexual Abuse

Childhood Sexual Abuse: A mental health issue

English PDF | More Fact Sheets Our experiences in childhood play a big part in shaping our health and well-being throughout our lives. Sexual abuse in childhood can leave scars that can last for a long time. But many cases are never reported. Some people feel very scared about reporting abuse.

Great article worth reading…

How does childhood sexual abuse affect adult well-being?

Childhood sexual abuse can have a wide range of effects in adulthood. Some adult survivors experience few mental health problems, while others experience many mental health problems. Abuse is a kind of trauma. Trauma is a situation that’s shocking, intense and distressing. The effects of trauma include a complicated mix of factors, such as:

  • The amount of any kind of trauma you previously experienced
  • The severity of the trauma
  • How close you were to the person who abused you
  • How long the abuse lasted
  • How people you trusted reacted to the abuse, if you told them—did they believe you and support you or dismiss you?10

Here are some of the ways that experiences of childhood sexual abuse can affect well-being:

  • Trust—Abuse may impair your sense that the world is a safe place and impair your ability to trust others. This may be particularly difficult if you had a close relationship with the abuser.11
  • Self-esteem—You may blame yourself for the abuse, even though it isn’t your fault. You may have a hard time feeling good about yourself or hopeful about your future.12
  • Coping with stress—You may have a lot of negative feelings, which may make it hard to cope with everyday stress.12
  • Impulsivity—Impulsivity means acting on urges before thinking through the consequences, which can lead to risky activities.12
  • Anger—You may have a hard time controlling your anger.12
  • Dissociation—With dissociation, your mind “separates” itself from painful events to protect itself. You may have a hard time remembering what happened, feel like the world around you isn’t real or feel like you aren’t connected to your body. It’s a common reaction to pain and fear.13
  • Self-harm—You may harm yourself, but not intend to end your life. It may be a way to cope with difficult thoughts or feelings.14

These are common reactions to trauma. But they can lead to problems when they affect the way you live your life. It’s important to get help if you are having a hard time coping with past trauma.

Other problems linked to childhood sexual abuse include:

  • Mental illness—Experiencing childhood sexual abuse does not mean that you will develop a mental illness, but it is one of many risk factors. People who experience childhood sexual abuse may have a higher risk of experiencing anxiety disorders (such as post-traumatic stress disorder),15 depression,16 eating disorders,16 dissociative disorders17 and personality disorders.18
  • Substance use problems—Survivors of childhood sexual abuse are at greater risk of developing problems with alcohol and other drugs19,20,21 and may be more likely to start using substances at a younger age.22,23,24,25 There may also be a link between your response to childhood sexual abuse (such as depression, low self-esteem or post-traumatic stress disorder) and the risk of experiencing problems with substances.19,21,26 Substances may be a way to cope with difficult experiences.19,21″

 

 

 

Originally posted 2016-11-17 13:03:29.

Music

Fight Song
Rachel Platten

Lyrics

Like a small boat
On the ocean
Sending big waves
Into motion
Like how a single word
Can make a heart open
I might only have one match
But I can make an explosion

And all those things I didn’t say
Wrecking balls inside my brain
I will scream them loud tonight
Can you hear my voice this time?

This is my fight song
Take back my life song
Prove I’m alright song
My power’s turned on
Starting right now I’ll be strong
I’ll play my fight song
And I don’t really care if nobody else believes
‘Cause I’ve still got a lot of fight left in me

Losing friends and I’m chasing sleep
Everybody’s worried about me
In too deep
Say I’m in too deep (in too deep)
And it’s been two years I miss my home
But there’s a fire burning in my bones
Still believe
Yeah, I still believe

And all those things I didn’t say
Wrecking balls inside my brain
I will scream them loud tonight
Can you hear my voice this time?

This is my fight song
Take back my life song
Prove I’m alright song
My power’s turned on
Starting right now I’ll be strong
I’ll play my fight song
And I don’t really care if nobody else believes
‘Cause I’ve still got a lot of fight left in me

A lot of fight left in me

Like a small boat
On the ocean
Sending big waves
Into motion
Like how a single word
Can make a heart open
I might only have one match
But I can make an explosion

This is my fight song
Take back my life song
Prove I’m alright song
My power’s turned on
Starting right now I’ll be strong (I’ll be strong)
I’ll play my fight song
And I don’t really care if nobody else believes
‘Cause I’ve still got a lot of fight left in me

Know I’ve still got a lot of fight left in me

Originally posted 2016-06-08 15:52:28.

Gender, Mind

Through a Man’s Eyes: Helping Women Understand the Visual Nature of Men
Shaunti Feldhahn, Craig Gross

Through a Man's Eyes: Helping Women Understand the Visual Nature of Men Shaunti Feldhahn, Craig Gross
Through a Man’s Eyes: Helping Women Understand the Visual Nature of Men Shaunti Feldhahn, Craig Gross

Through a Man’s Eyes: Helping Women Understand the Visual Nature of Men

This book is great.   Understanding the way men think, as a woman, isn’t easy.   This book allowed me to understand men a little more by tapping into the male brain and learning how it functions.

It helped me respect the differences that sometimes are so hard to understand.

It is critical to not listen to this book with a negative mindset.   Sometimes the more you learn and the more you know can make you over analyze even the simplest situations.   The point of this book is to empower women to simply learn and respect some of the differences that could sometimes frustrate us not to use this against the men in our lives.

In my opinion, men benefit from women understanding them because it can be difficult for men to articulate what they sometimes go through as males.

-Rosemary


“What Happens When Women See What Men See?

You already know that your husband, boyfriend, or son is wired differently from you, but do you know what that really means? It means, among other things, that he’s been given the gift of a unique visual wiring – and the challenges that come with it. In Through a Man’s Eyes, Shaunti Feldhahn and Craig Gross team up to help open our eyes to the God-given visual nature of men. They address questions like:

  • “Why are guys so visual – and what does that mean, anyway?”
  • “How do I help my son navigate this sex-crazed culture?”
  • “How dare someone tell a woman to watch what she wears! Isn’t it a man’s responsibility not to look?”
  • “If he’s tempted by visual images, is there something wrong with him? With me?”
  • “My husband is an honorable guy, so why would he be tempted by porn?”
  • “How can I talk to my husband or son about this? What can I do to support him?”

Through the compassion and candor in this audiobook, you can learn what men have long wished the women in their lives knew but didn’t know how to explain – and see the difference this awareness makes.” (audible.com)

Originally posted 2016-06-08 14:48:07.

Declutter, Mind

Uncluttered. Scientists find physical clutter negatively affects your ability to focus, process information
by Erin Doland

Scientists find physical clutter negatively affects your ability to focus, process information by Erin Doland
Scientists find physical clutter negatively affects your ability to focus, process information by Erin Doland

 

https://unclutterer.com/2011/03/29/scientists-find-physical-clutter-negatively-affects-your-ability-to-focus-process-information/

For years, I have re-arranged and cleaned my environment because I not only get bored but I want to free up my mind to produce.   The only way I am able to be productive is to change my environment and to declutter.

I remember my friends at work would be like “Rosey are you changing your desk around again?!” and all I could think was that this is the only way to do it.   Decluttering frees up your mind to be able to focus.   I totally get this and live by this.

When I need to produce, I must change it up.   I need to see a clean and clutter-free environment.

Read the entire article or read what i have captured below by Eric Doland.

-Rosemary

“Researchers at the Princeton University Neuroscience Institute published the results of a study they conducted in the January issue of The Journal of Neuroscience that relates directly to uncluttered and organized living. From their report “Interactions of Top-Down and Bottom-Up Mechanisms in Human Visual Cortex”:

Multiple stimuli present in the visual field at the same time compete for neural representation by mutually suppressing their evoked activity throughout visual cortex, providing a neural correlate for the limited processing capacity of the visual system.

Or, to paraphrase in non-neuroscience jargon: When your environment is cluttered, the chaos restricts your ability to focus. The clutter also limits your brain’s ability to process information. Clutter makes you distracted and unable to process information as well as you do in an uncluttered, organized, and serene environment.

The clutter competes for your attention in the same way a toddler might stand next to you annoyingly repeating, “candy, candy, candy, candy, I want candy, candy, candy, candy, candy, candy, candy, candy, candy, candy …” Even though you might be able to focus a little, you’re still aware that a screaming toddler is also vying for your attention. The annoyance also wears down your mental resources and you’re more likely to become frustrated.”

Originally posted 2016-06-07 22:48:10.

Inspirational/ Motivational

My Dream

My dream is to reach YOU.   Whomever is reading this at this moment.   To help you realize your true potential.   I believe this is my purpose.   That all the hardship i have experienced in my life was there to teach me how to help you.

This website is my journey.   Some of the things that I have learned and am still learning.

I’m excited to keep posting and reach those that need help.

YOU are not alone.   We all go through pain and suffering.  We all have bad days, months and years.   We all need help sometimes because life can get overwhelming.

I my goal is to help just one person at a time.

This site is not perfect because I am not perfect.   It is simply my journey.

Welcome…

-Rosemary

I always wanted to create Mind Body Soul and I’m so happy I added Journey to it.

Originally posted 2016-11-14 23:05:25.

Quotes

Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve regardless of how many times you may have failed in the past or how lofty your aims and hopes may be.
Napoleon Hill

Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve regardless of how many times you may have failed in the past or how lofty your aims and hopes may be. Napoleon Hill
Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve regardless of how many times you may have failed in the past or how lofty your aims and hopes may be. Napoleon Hill

If you want more on Napoleon Hill, the life lessons he teaches in Think and Grow Rich below will enlighten you.   Pay attention.

Also, if you have bluetooth in your car and internet on your phone, you literally can just play it and listen to this Youtube as if it were an audiobook.    If not, you can always do work and listen with earphones.    This is worth taking the time to listen to.

-Rosemary

Originally posted 2016-06-07 00:47:20.

Quotes

Rejection

When you get rejected it feels awful at first but what is great about rejection is that it makes you look within even more.   You get stronger and stronger.    When you fall you get back up.   Survival of the fittest!  Rejection is just a temporary distraction.   When you focus on you and continue focusing on you – the rejections of the past will seem like dust in the wind. 😘

 

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Originally posted 2016-11-14 19:45:25.

Habits, Mind

Forget big change, start with a tiny habit
BJ Fogg at TEDxFremont

What i loved about this was that when I think about changing a habit, I think about this overwhelming feeling of feeling uncomfortable.  Why?  Because I like to be in my comfort zone.  I like to do what is easy as most of us do.

In order to change, as Brendon Burchard says in “The Charge”, we must be okay with what is not easy.    We must be okay with getting uncomfortable.

BJ Fogg does a great TED Talk on starting with a  tiny habit.    He says that if you pretty much do not overwhelm yourself with big changes that you can create small little habits that will lead you to success.   “What if someone told you to floss only one tooth everyday?” he says.   You would probably floss all of them.

Watch this video.   It is worth the 17 minutes.

-Rosemary

Originally posted 2016-06-06 22:43:51.

Mind, The Self

Why Good People Do Bad Things
Debbie Ford

Why Good People Do Bad Things Debbie Ford
Why Good People Do Bad Things Debbie Ford

Why Good People Do Bad Things

I think this is a great book because it is quite interesting how sometimes we believe that we are all good.   Everyone has as Debbie Ford explains in this book a light and dark side.   Understanding this is very important so that people don’t feel they are alone.

I remember buying this book and reading some of it but now that I know there is an audible version, I am totally going to listen to the entire thing.

-Rosemary

Why Good People Do Bad Things exposes the pervasive and often hidden impulses that influence our everyday decisions. The headlines are full of stories of good people gone astray. They show up on the evening news and are splashed across the weekly tabloids.

In many ways, these sad stories have become a national obsession. Yet countless other acts of self-destruction and sabotage take place in our families, in our communities, in our circle of friends. Despite good intentions, “good people” do very bad things – often without understanding why.

New York Times best-selling author Debbie Ford guides us into the heart of the duality that unknowingly operates within each one of us: the force that compels us to live by our values, give and receive love, and be a contributing member of the community; and the force that holds us back, sabotages our efforts, and repeatedly steers us toward bad choices.

Ford begins with an examination of what she calls the Beach-Ball Effect – the way in which suppressed emotions eventually rise to the surface – revealing the origins of self-destructive behavior. By describing the never-ending battle between our light and dark sides and then identifying the signposts for potential disaster, Ford helps us understand how we end up damaging the lives we’ve worked so hard to create. She then breaks new ground by helping us recognize the masks we wear to protect ourselves, including the People Pleaser, the Victim, the Bully, Mister Cool, and the Jokester. Understanding these masks and what they cover up allows us to go beneath the surface, wake up from denial, and become the person we always intended to be.

With Why Good People Do Bad Things Ford has created her most enduring, expansive, and powerful work to date. Providing the tools to unlock the patterns of self-sabotage, Ford ultimately knocks down the facade of the false self and shows us how to heal the split between light and dark and live the authentic life…” (audible.com)

Originally posted 2016-06-06 21:14:28.

Body, Mind, Sexuality

Kinsey The Movie
Human Sexuality

Since I am fascinated with human behavior and the mind, in college I took a class called Human Sexuality.   This class was very interesting.   The entire class had discussions on the subject and I learned a lot.    In my Human Sexuality text book we studied Alfred Kinsey and so this is why I watched this movie.   If you are interested in watching a great movie, watch this.    This movie may be uncomfortable for some people but I liked it.

-Rosemary

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alfred_Kinsey

“Life story of Alfred Kinsey, a man driven to uncover the most private secrets of the nation, and a journey into the mystery of human behavior. In 1948 Kinsey irrevocably changed American culture and created a media sensation with his book “Sexual Behavior in the Human Male”. Using the technique of his own famous sex interviews, story recounts the scientist’s extraordinary journey from obscurity to global fame. Rebelling against the rigid piety of his home life, and drawn to the world of the senses, Kinsey becomes a Harvard-educated zoologist specializing in the study of gall wasps. After being hired to teach biology at Indiana University, Kinsey meets and marries a witty, freethinking female student, Clara McMillen. In the course of his teaching he discovers an astonishing dearth of scientific data on sexual behavior. When students seek him out for advice about sexual concerns and problems, he realizes that no one has done the clinical research that would yield reliable answers to their questions. Inspired to explore the emotionally charged subject of sex from a strictly scientific point of view, Kinsey recruits a team of researchers, including Clyde Martin, Wardell Pomeroy and Paul Gebhard. Over time they refine an interviewing technique, which helps people to break through shame, fear, and guilt and speak freely about their sexual histories. When Kinsey publishes his Male study in 1948, the press compares the impact to that of the atom bomb. But as the country enters the more paranoid Cold War era of the 1950s, Kinsey’s follow-up study on women is seen as an attack on basic American values. The ensuing outrage and scorn causes Kinsey’s benefactors to abandon him, just as his health begins to deteriorate. At the same time, the jealousies and acrimony caused by Kinsey’s attempt to create a private sexual utopia threaten to tear apart the research team and expose them to unwelcome scrutiny.” (Youtube.com)

Originally posted 2016-06-06 19:27:37.