History is full of bizarre reports. Ancient soldiers would go blind despite no physical injury. Shakespeare wrote of maladies afflicting warriors and kings, where their mind began to churn and broil without any injury. In the U.S. Civil War, many of the soldiers coming home had difficulties in the field or returning to their normal lives.
I remember seeing this woman live in Manhattan. Reading this book and seeing her live literally changed my life. It allowed me to see fear in such a different light. One of the key things I learned from this book was the feeling of not feeling “good enough”. She taught me to not diminish my feelings and act like it wasn’t a big deal what happened to me as a child. We work so hard sometimes to be tough and literally build a wall around us. That wall serves a purpose. To protect us. The only problem is as you get older you realize the wall that helped to protect you actually hurts you and alienates you from the world. You create a sort of prison that prevents you from getting out or letting anyone in. This book is a must read.
“For more than ten years, Fearless Living has been inspiring readers to take back their lives and “live the life their soul intended.”
As a survivor of personal trauma, Rhonda Britten understands the challenge of mastering fears-whether it’s a fear of rejection, looking stupid, not getting the job, or not being good enough.
With her acclaimed Fearless Living program, however, she has helped hundreds of thousands of people get unstuck, gain clarity of purpose, and take life-changing risks.
Featuring inspiring true stories and practical Fearbuster exercises, Fearless Living exposes the roots of our fears and gives us the tools to move beyond them. The result is a blueprint for success, happiness, and peace of mind.”
Unlimited Power Featuring Tony Robbins Live! By Anthony (Tony) Robbins(A) [Audiobook]
“Yes, you can do, have, achieve, and create anything you want out of life. Anthony Robbins has proved it. Robbins, the undisputed master of the magic of mind power, shows you in this audio program how to harness yours. He demonstrates passionately and eloquently that whatever you think will be, that your state of mind determines what you can and can’t do, and that all successful results can be modeled and duplicated. His enthusiasm is contagious as he shows you how to:
Reprogram your mind in minutes to eliminate fears and phobias
Fuel your body with spectacular health and energy
Dramatically improve your interpersonal relationships
Become a persuasive communicator and create instant rapport with anyone you meet
Use the success of others to remodel yourself
Discover the five keys to wealth and happiness
Master the ultimate success formula
Robbins calls Unlimited Power the new science of personal achievement. You’ll call it the best thing that ever happened to you.” (audible.com)
I remember listening to an Anthony Robbins audiobook a few years ago and I was sitting at my desk at work. I was working at a company for over 10 years and at this point I was probably there for maybe 7 years and I was not getting paid at all what I felt I was valued at.
I was highly motivated and always tried to do more but was not getting paid more for the more I brought to the table. Not only was it frustrating but I felt helpless.
As I’m listening to my audiobook, Anthony Robbins says “JUST TAKE ACTION” and do what you need to do to make the change happen. I decided to unplug my earphones and go ask for a raise. Now I usually would have prepared for this but I decided that I wanted to just do it.
I go to the boss’s office and say I want a raise and proceed to say that I am valued at this amount. He immediately says I cannot give you a raise. I was so determined because of Anthony Robbins that I said It is okay if you cannot give me a raise right now but I want you to know that I know that I am valued at this amount and I felt it was right to let you know.
A few months later or a year later I happen to get a raise. Now I wasn’t where I wanted to be but I learned if you don’t ask you don’t get. ASK! Take action!
“I know that no matter where you are in your life, you want more! No matter how well you’re already doing or how challenged you now may be, deep inside you there lies a belief that your experience of life can and will be much greater than it already is. You are destined for your own unique form of greatness.”
Anthony Robbins has already unlocked the personal power inside millions of people worldwide. Now, in this revolutionary new audio production based on his enormously popular Date with Destiny seminars, Robbins unleashes the sleeping giant that lies within all of us, teaching us to harness our untapped abilities, talents and skills.
The ultimate program for improving the quality of every aspect of your life (personal or business, physical or emotional) Awaken the Giant Within gives you the tools you need to immediately become the master of your own fate.” (www.audible.com)
When it comes to fruit, it’s usually easy to decipher exactly which fruit is which simply by sight. It’s literally an exercise in comparing apples to oranges. But that’s not always the case. Take, for instance, plantains. At first glance, it’s just as easy to confuse a plantain with a banana, and for good reason.
If trying to boost your mood leaves you unhappy – or you just keep sinking back into unhappiness – it’s not working. Don’t give up, but do consider an alternative approach. To feel happy, sometimes you first need to embrace being upset.
One of my observations is that sometimes when we experience pain from a traumatic experience or stay stuck in the past… we tend to avoid remembering, can’t remember or want to distract ourselves to not think about the experience or negative thoughts. What happens is we suppress those thoughts and emotions because they are too painful to handle or at least we believe they are too painful to handle so we avoid them but distracting ourselves.
The biggest issue I find with avoiding, suppressing and distracting ourselves is that we are not happy. How can we be happy if we are only living part of life and not allowing ourselves to live fully?
So far from my research on PTSD and Mindfulness I am realizing more and more that in order to heal we must be ready to deal with the uncomfortable feelings and emotions that we have been trying to avoid for so many years. The only way to develop is to fight not flight. To stop running and to start facing.
For many people this may sound easy but it is not. It is one of the most challenging things to do for a person that experienced pain in the past.
Stay tuned because the more I research this topic, the more I will be posting my observations.
I am no professional expert but I definitely have a lot of passion around this subject and want to help people break free of their emotional prison. People that have experienced pain or trauma deserve to live and unfortunately have stayed stuck on an event or numerous events in the past that have caused them pain…like a movie that keeps replaying itself.
Whether you’re tempted to give in to that craving for a cupcake, or you’re about to give up on your goals, perseverance isn’t easy. But before you blame your lack of God-given willpower and before you make an excuse for your less than stellar performance, consider this; it only takes a few minutes a day to build the mental muscle you need to reach your greatest potential.
In the field of psychology, the Dunning-Kruger effect is a cognitive bias wherein people of low ability suffer from illusory superiority, mistakenly assessing their cognitive ability as greater than it is. The cognitive bias of illusory superiority derives from the metacognitive inability of low-ability persons to recognize their own ineptitude.
Experiential avoidance ( EA) has been broadly defined as attempts to avoid thoughts, feelings, memories, physical sensations, and other internal experiences-even when doing so creates harm in the long-run. The process of EA is thought to be maintained through negative reinforcement -that is, short-term relief of discomfort is achieved through avoidance, thereby increasing the likelihood that the behavior will persist.
When children are raised with chronic loss, without the psychological or physical protection they need and certainly deserve, it is most natural for them to internalize incredible fear. Not receiving the necessary psychological or physical protection equals abandonment. And, living with repeated abandonment experiences creates toxic shame.
“You’re never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream.” ~C. S. Lewis Change means reinvention. Each time a major shift happens in our lives-leaving a job or a relationship, moving, losing a loved one-we have to choose who we want to become or risk never reaching our full potential.
The negativity bias, also known as the negativity effect, refers to the notion that, even when of equal intensity, things of a more negative nature (e.g. unpleasant thoughts, emotions, or social interactions; harmful/traumatic events) have a greater effect on one’s psychological state and processes than do neutral or positive things.
Child abuse. Rape. Sexual assault. Brutal physical attack. Being in a war and witnessing violence, bloodshed, and death from close quarters. Near death experiences. These are extremely traumatic events, and some victims bear the scars for life. The physical scars heal, but some emotional wounds stop the lives of these people dead in their tracks.
public embarrassment (public speaking, embarrassing moments etc.)
bullying (childhood bullying, workplace bullying, getting made fun of etc.)
This book will educate you on understanding trauma and its effects. How it doesn’t only affect your mind but also how it affects your body. Gives emotional regulation techniques to help you deal with the trauma.
“A pioneering researcher and one of the world’s foremost experts on traumatic stress offers a bold new paradigm for healing Trauma is a fact of life. Veterans and their families deal with the painful aftermath of combat; one in five Americans has been molested; one in four grew up with alcoholics; one in three couples have engaged in physical violence. Such experiences inevitably leave traces on minds, emotions, and even on biology. Sadly, trauma sufferers frequently pass on their stress to their partners and children. Renowned trauma expert Bessel van der Kolk has spent over three decades working with survivors. In The Body Keeps the Score, he transforms our understanding of traumatic stress, revealing how it literally rearranges the brain’s wiring – specifically areas dedicated to pleasure, engagement, control, and trust. He shows how these areas can be reactivated through innovative treatments including neuro feedback, mindfulness techniques, play, yoga, and other therapies. Based on Dr. van der Kolk’s own research and that of other leading specialists, The Body Keeps the Score offers proven alternatives to drugs and talk therapy – and a way to reclaim lives.” (audible.com)
You are sitting at home and your mind keeps going over the negatives — over and over. You keep reviewing what has happened to you — perhaps a conflict with someone, something at work, your living conditions, your finances, your health. Whatever. You dwell on it. You are stuck.