Who is your best friend? If the name that just popped into your head was anything other than “me,” you’re missing out! Ok, I know that it’s popular to say that you should “be your own best friend,” but, what does this really mean?
What is self-love? Is it something you can buy in a makeover or a new set of clothing? Is it something you can get through a job or romantic relationship? Can you get more of it by reading something inspirational? No! Self-love is an action.
I think the seven steps are very good. Click on the link to the article to learn more.
Sometimes we are are extremely hard on ourselves and having self-compassion is a must. The more we have compassion for ourselves the more we will have compassion for people. It all starts with us. -Rosemary
“From leading psychologist Dr. Kristin Neff comes a step-by-step guide explaining how to be more self-compassionate and achieve your dreams in life.
The relentless pursuit of high self-esteem has become a virtual religion – and a tyrannical one at that. Our ultracompetitive culture tells us we need to be constantly above average to feel good about ourselves, but there is always someone more attractive, successful, or intelligent than we are. And even when we do manage to grab hold of high self-esteem for a brief moment, we can’t seem to keep it. Our sense of self-worth goes up and down like a ping-pong ball, rising and falling in lockstep with our latest success or failure.
Fortunately, there is an alternative to self-esteem that many experts believe is a better and more effective path to happiness: self-compassion. The research of Dr. Kristin Neff and other leading psychologists indicates that people who are compassionate toward their failings and imperfections experience greater well-being than those who repeatedly judge themselves. The feelings of security and self-worth provided by self-compassion are also highly stable, kicking in precisely when self-esteem falls down. This book powerfully demonstrates why it’s so important to be self-compassionate and give yourself the same caring support you’d give to a good friend.
This groundbreaking work will show you how to let go of debilitating self-criticism and finally learn to be kind to yourself. Using solid empirical research, personal stories, practical exercises, and humor, Dr. Neff – the world’s foremost expert on self-compassion – explains how to heal destructive emotional patterns so that you can be healthier, happier, and more effective. Engaging, highly listenable, and eminently accessible, this book has the power to change your life.” (audible.com)