Fear, Mind

Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway – Susan Jeffers

Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway - Susan Jeffers
Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway – Susan Jeffers

Feel the Fear . . . and Do It Anyway

This book taught me to be okay with feeling fear.   I thought fear was something that was unique to me.   That I was the only one that felt this anxious feeling when speaking in public or talking to a new person.   I knew a lot of people but I was shy.   Not many people knew I was shy.   I realized that everyone has fear.   I learned to not let fear paralyze me.    Sometimes people over analyze a situation and stay paralyzed in analyzing it and never take action.

In business, there were many times that I had to make a presentation or speak in front of others.   A few times when I got in front of others I got hives on my chest because of being so nervous.    When I read this book, I allowed myself to get the hives and be okay with them.   I did not let the hives take over me and stop me from presenting.   I had a message to say and as soon as I got comfortable the hives would go away.    How horrible would it have been that I would not say what I wanted to say because of fear?

I am so thankful for this book because it taught me to allow myself to feel the feel and just do it anyway.

If you have any fears, this book is a must read.  Unfortunately they do not have this book on audio.   I did buy the kindle version to read again because it is that good.



Are you afraid of making decisions . . . asking your boss for a raise . . . leaving an unfulfilling relationship . . . facing the future? Whatever your fear, here is your chance to push through it once and for all. In this enduring guide to self-empowerment, Dr. Susan Jeffers inspires us with dynamic techniques and profound concepts that have helped countless people grab hold of their fears and move forward with their lives. Inside you’ll discover

• what we are afraid of, and why
• how to move from victim to creator
• the secret of making no lose decisions
• the vital 10-step process that helps you outtalk the negative chatterbox in your brain
• how to create more meaning in your life
And so much more!

With insight and humor, Dr. Jeffers shows you how to become powerful in the face of your fears–and enjoy the elation of living a creative, joyous, loving life.

“Should be required for every person who can read! I recommend this book in every one of my seminars!”
–Jack Canfield, co-author of Chicken Soup for the Soul

“It’s a must! The most practical guide to personal empowerment I have ever read. Feel the Fear . . . and Do It Anyway goes to number one on my recommended reading list.”
–Jordan Paul, Ph.D., co-author of Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?

“Living is taking chances, and Feel the Fear . . . and Do It Anyway has helped so many people, both men and women, to achieve success.”
–Louise L. Hay, author of The Power Is Within You” (amazon.com)

Originally posted 2016-06-04 20:44:57.

Mind, Pleasing Others

The Disease to Please: Curing the People-Pleasing Syndrome
Harriet Braiker

The Disease to Please: Curing the People-Pleasing Syndrome - Harriet Braiker
The Disease to Please: Curing the People-Pleasing Syndrome – Harriet Braiker

I used to be a people pleaser.   I remember years ago I was an Executive Assistant.   I was going to school full time and working full time.    I was totally an over achiever.    I worked hard to make sure everyone was happy.   The only problem with making sure that everyone was happy was that I wasn’t making myself happy.    I was a doormat in the making.   I don’t even know how I became this way.  I guess I really liked the recognition that came from pleasing people not realizing how much it was affecting me.

After reading this book I realized that I was doing myself a disservice.   I was focusing more on the needs of others before my own needs.   This was draining me.   The more I pleased people the more they expected from me.

When I realized that I needed to respect what I wanted before the needs of others I slowly but surely stopped working so hard.   It was actually more rewarding to focus on me.   I gained self respect and valued my time a lot more.

I stopped saying yes to everything.   If I didn’t want to do something I said no.   If I wanted to do something, I did it.   How powerful!

If you focus more on pleasing others and put your needs last, you need to read this book!


“People pleasers are not just nice people who go overboard trying to make everyone happy. Those who suffer from the Disease to Please are people who say “Yes” when they really want to say “No”. For them, the uncontrollable need for the elusive approval of others is an addiction. Their debilitating fears of anger and confrontation force them to use “niceness” and “people-pleasing” as self-defense camouflage.

Featured on NBC’s TodayThe Disease to Please explodes the dangerous myth that “people pleasing” is a benign problem. Best-selling author and frequent Oprah guest Dr. Harriet Braiker offers clear, positive, practical, and easily do-able steps toward recovery.

Begin with a simple but revealing quiz to discover what type of people-pleaser you are. Then learn how making even small changes to any single portion of the Disease to Please Triangle, involving your thoughts, feelings, and behavior, will cause a dramatic, positive, and long-lasting change to the overall syndrome.

As a recovered people pleaser, you will finally see that a balanced way of living that takes others into consideration but puts the emphasis first on pleasing yourself and gaining your own approval is the clearest path to health and happiness.”

The Disease To Please: Curing the People-Pleasing Syndrome

Originally posted 2016-06-04 20:28:42.

Control, Mind

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself – Melody Beattie

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself - Melody Beattie
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself – Melody Beattie

This book is great.   One of the hardest things to do is focus on yourself when you are surrounded by one or more people that have serious issues.   Yes we all have issues but sometimes we are put in situations with people that literally make us sick.    The people around us may be going through something very serious and as a result we become codependent on their issues.   It can be personality disorders, addiction, abuse or anything that affects others.

The interesting part is that when you are around someone that affects you mentally or physically it is easy to point the finger at them.   They are the ones with the problem.   What most people don’t realize is that being around someone that has issues can create something within us that is called codependency.

You can focus so much on someone else’s issues that you forget about you.  You lose yourself.    This book helped me focus on me.

For those of you out there that have lived or been around anyone that has affected them either mentally or physically, please read this book.   YOU deserve to read this book for you.   Once you read this you will realize that focusing on you is the solution.

After reading this book I actually got my MBA.   I thank my mom for reminding me that I always wanted to get my MBA and after this book it was the perfect time to get it!


“A source of healing and inspiration for millions, this modern classic spent over three years on the New York Times best seller list and made codependency a household word. Codependent No More contains dozens of real-life examples, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests to help you along the road to recovering your own life. For anyone struggling with a relationship involving alchoholism or other compulsive behaviors, this program points the way to healing and the renewal of hope. Melody Beattie’s insights into the nature of the phenomenon of codependency will guide you step by step to the understanding that letting go will set you free.” (audible.com)

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

Originally posted 2016-06-04 19:47:05.

Past-life Regression Therapy, Soul

Many Lives, Many Masters
Brian Weiss

Dr. Brian Weiss - Oprah and Dr. Brian Weiss on Reincarnation, Past Lives and Miracles
Dr. Brian Weiss http://www.brianweiss.com


Many Lives, Many Masters: The True Story of a Psychiatrist, His Young Patient, and Past-Life Therapy - Brian Weiss
Many Lives, Many Masters: The True Story of a Psychiatrist, His Young Patient, and Past-Life Therapy – Brian Weiss

This book helped me not fear death and not fear hypnosis.   If you are not used to reading spiritual books, this is a good book for you.    I have always loved psychology but never really entered into the topic of the soul.   This book was my first book on this subject and I did have my doubts and concerns.   The reason why I liked this book so much was because Dr. Brian Weiss is a psychiatrist that studied and practiced psychology for years.   In addition, he also was a hypnotherapist.

Dr. Weiss himself was skeptical about his own findings with one particular patient called Catherine.   This is where his journey began in healing traumas that he normally could not heal with traditional psychology and hypnosis.

He usually regressed patients to past life events in their childhood to help heal them but Catherine ended up regressing past this life.   She regressed back to prehistoric times and ancient Egypt.   After this discovery and healing many patients, Dr. Brian Weiss has specialized in past-life regression therapy to help cure patients of traumas, phobias and anxiety in their current life.

I always feared hypnotherapy.     Being a person that always wanted to be in control, I feared that being hypnotized would be out of my control.  After studying the work of Dr. Weiss, I realized that as long as I had chosen a therapist with a degree in Psychology and was certified to be a hypnotherapist that I could give it a try.   I actually chose a doctor that was trained by Dr. Brian Weiss himself to ensure that I was choosing the best of the best.

My experience with a hypnosis was amazing and changed my life.    I remember going to a location in manhattan and it was in a building.   When I went upstairs there were a bunch of doors of different psychologist but the door that I was going to enter had a business card that looked very spiritual and unique.    When it was time I entered into this small room that looked very bohemian and relaxing.   I was very nervous but had a feeling of relief that the person I was there to see was very calming.

I then talked to her for a few minutes on the reasons I was there to see her.    I already felt more calm but still very anxious.    She then said are you ready to get hypnotized and I could hear my heart beating.   I said yes.    I then laid down on this sort of bed that looked like a doctor patient table but was wrapped in a fabric.   When I laid down, she put a blanket over me to make me feel even more comfortable and shut the lights.   I did feel more safe.

She then told me to go to a place in my mind that i felt comfortable and safe.   At first it was so hard to go anywhere in my mind because i was so nervous.   I tried my best to think of a place and then I began to think of a waterfall.   The waterfall was in a sort of paradise with the greenest grass and beautiful animals and the water was super blue.   As I kept thinking of the waterfall I did start relaxing more and more.

After the relaxation phase, She then told me to pick any age where I wanted to go and so I did.   I thought about a time when I was about 7 years old and I was in the Dominican Republic and my grandmother (who passed away) was telling me to stop dancing the way I was dancing.   She told me it was inappropriate.    I remember getting so upset with her because I felt she was just old and didn’t want me to have fun but the interesting part was that I went there in my mind for a reason.   I must have wanted to re-visit that time in my life to address something that I felt I needed to address.    The therapist was guiding me the entire time to try to understand what why i went there and what i was feeling.   I kept going.   At that moment, I realized why i went there, I went there because I knew that my grandmother was not old and telling me that because she wanted to get me upset.   She was trying to help me and protect me.   In the hypnotic state, my therapist said to tell my grandmother what I was feeling and so I did.   I said grandmother thank you for letting me know this.   The therapist then asked me if I wanted to go that time as my younger self or as an adult self to confront the situation.   I chose my adult self to talk to my younger self.   I told my younger self that there was another way to dance and in my mind I literally imagined teaching my younger self how to dance appropriately.   It was so empowering that I literally was re-programming my mind.   Instead of feeling upset and helpless, I was going back in time and changing the way I thought about a situation.   Pretty amazing.

After that experience, she then told me to choose another age and time where I wanted to go.   I chose the difficult one.   One that I avoided to go my entire life.   The one I wanted replace and block out.    I decided to be brave.   Throughout the entire time, she was guiding me and there to address any issues that came up.   In addition, I felt in control the entire time.   If I can describe hypnosis, it would be a relaxed state where an expert is able to retrieve memories that aren’t so easily retrieved in your daily life.    The thoughts we all avoid because they cause feelings of guilt, shame, embarrassment, fear, regret and make us feel super vulnerable.    I knew that since she was a psychologist that if certain emotions surfaced that I would be in good hands with someone that can help me address the issues.

So I went to the difficult place and now I needed to confront the enemy.     She asked me if I wanted to confront the situation as my younger self or my adult self.   I said my younger self.   I wanted to see my younger self defend herself.   The hypnosis was all through visualization and memory.    Pretty fascinating.  I now go back and replay the memory of my trauma and visualize my enemy exactly where he was.   The therapist then asks me what do you want to say to him?   I started thinking and talking out loud about exactly what I wanted to say to him for years.   For over 20 years I wanted to tell this man exactly what I never got the chance to tell him when i was a child because I was in shock when it all happened.    As I let myself say what I wanted to say, I felt more and more powerful.   I was regaining the power I lost years ago.   What made me feel helpless and fearful.   He had no idea how much he affected me and now was the opportunity for me to experience the event and let it all out.   Once I finished confronting him and defending myself, I felt good.   Not 100% but good.

Lastly in that session she asked me if I wanted to do anything to him.   This was interesting because I have always had so much hate and anger towards him for taking advantage of me.    She says think about a place where you would like to take him.   I think and think and wonder where would I like to take him.    I say a desert.   I say an Egyptian desert.    I visualize a sort of prison in the middle of no where that is concrete.   There is no one but him isolated and boxed in.    He has no way out and no human contact.    She then asks me if I want to do anything to him and I said yes.   I want to punch him and hit him.   She says ok so then do it.   I visualize in my head beating him up.    She asks me how does that feel and I say good.

Shortly after, she mentions that she is going to bring me back and starts counting.   As she starts counting and I start getting out of the hypnotic state, I feel sort of vulnerable.   I wasn’t sure exactly what just happened.   I felt like I just had a dream and woke up.   I remember that I talked to her for a few minutes and left.

I got in my car and thought about what had just happened.   It felt good yet it made me think.   Days later I started to feel better.    I felt a weight lifted off of me.    It felt like I re-gained my power.

Studying Trauma and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) for years, I can tell you that a pattern of behavior amongst people that have experienced trauma is avoidance.   Not all traumatized individuals avoid but it is a common behavior.   The reason I feel regression therapy is great is because you are able to confront what actually happened to you instead of living in fear and avoiding what happened.

I did go see the therapist again to see if I could go to a past life but I could not.

I went to a workshop that Dr. Brian Weiss had in Rhineback NY for a weekend retreat and he did a group regression and I could not regress back to a past life.  Many people did but I believe that I still may need to work at it in order to achieve this.

Journey continues…If I am able to regress back to past life, I will write about it.

It is a little crazy that Dr. Brian Weiss actually looks a little like my dad.


“As a traditional psychotherapist, Dr. Brian Weiss was astonished and skeptical when one of his patients began recalling past-life traumas that seemed to hold the key to her recurring nightmares and anxiety attacks. His skepticism was eroded, however, when she began to channel messages from “the space between lives,” which contained remarkable revelations about Dr. Weiss’s family and his dead son. Using past-life therapy, he was able to cure the patient and embark on a new, more meaningful phase of his own career.

A graduate of Columbia University and Yale Medical School, Brian L. Weiss M.D. is Chairman Emeritus of Psychiatry at the Mount Sinai Medical Center in Miami.

Dr. Weiss conducts national and international seminars and experiential workshops as well as training programs for professionals.”

“Dr. Brian Weiss is a highly respected psychiatrist from the mainstream of the medical establishment. Catherine is one of his most difficult cases, a 27-year-old woman racked by phobias and anxieties. In the course of Catherine’s treatment, Dr. Weiss makes a startling discovery. Under hypnosis, she recollects, in vivid detail, events from past lives ranging from the prehistoric times and ancient Egypt to the 20th century and the fires of World War II. Encouraging Catherine to relive her most painful experiences, even her moments of death, Dr. Weiss steers her toward recovery, while his own life is dramatically changed forever.

In Many Lives, Many Masters, Dr. Weiss tells the true story of Catherine, her many existences, her remarkable therapy sessions, and the vision she revealed of the human mind and soul.” (audible.com)

Many Lives, Many Masters: The True Story of a Prominent Psychiatrist, His Young Patient, and the Past-Life Therapy That Changed Both Their Lives

Originally posted 2016-06-04 17:06:20.

Mind, Reprogramming the Mind

How To Reprogram Your Mind (for Positive Thinking) – Brendon Burchard

When you are used to thinking a certain way, it can feel very challenging to change.    It is very easy to think as we have always thought.   The challenge is changing the way you think and reprogramming your mind.

Brendon Burchard does a great job at explaining how to change.    Watch this video to learn more.

It will take work.   A lot of work but it will be worth it.



Originally posted 2016-06-04 15:48:03.

Mind, Reprogramming the Mind

The Subconscious Mind and How to Program it – Bob Proctor

Reprogramming the brain was always something that interest me because I always wondered what it would be like to be able to change the way we think.

How exactly can we change or program our minds to think differently?

Bob Proctor does a fantastic job in explaining our conscious mind, our subconscious mind, how they affect the body and in turn lead to the results we are getting today.

In order to program your mind we will need to look at all of these areas and see how they actually work together.

I learned about Bob Proctor when I watched the movie “The Secret by Rhonda Byrne”.


Originally posted 2016-06-04 15:47:25.




I kept the right ones out
And let the wrong ones in
Had an angel of mercy to see me through all my sins
There were times in my life
When I was goin’ insane
Tryin’ to walk through
The pain

When I lost my grip
And I hit the floor
Yeah, I thought I could leave, but couldn’t get out the door
I was so sick and tired
Of livin’ a lie
I was wishin’ that I
Would die

It’s amazing
With the blink of an eye, you finally see the light
It’s amazing
When the moment arrives that you know you’ll be alright
It’s amazing
And I’m sayin’ a prayer for the desperate hearts tonight

That one last shot’s permanent vacation
And how high can you fly with broken wings?
Life’s a journey, not a destination
And I just can’t tell just what tomorrow brings

You have to learn to crawl
Before you learn to walk
But I just couldn’t listen to all that righteous talk, oh yeah
I was out on the street
Just a tryin’ to survive
Scratchin’ to stay alive

It’s amazing
With the blink of an eye, you finally see the light
It’s amazing
When the moment arrives that you know you’ll be alright
Oh, it’s amazing
And I’m sayin’ a prayer for the desperate hearts tonight
Desperate hearts, desperate hearts

Never said I’ll do it, never
Never gonna go, never

(So, from all of us at Aerosmith, to all of you out there, wherever you are
Remember, the light at the end of the tunnel, may be you! Good night!)

Originally posted 2016-10-24 08:26:31.


Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our own vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy – the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light. – Brene Brown

Brene Brown The Power of Vulnerability
Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it.  Embracing our own vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy – the experiences that make us the most vulnerable.  Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.  – Brene Brown

Originally posted 2016-06-04 16:29:55.


High reliability organization

High reliability organization – Wikipedia

Defining high reliability and specifying what constitutes a high reliability organization has presented some challenges. Roberts initially proposed that high reliability organizations are a subset of hazardous organizations that have enjoyed a record of high safety over long periods of time.


Originally posted 2017-03-19 09:14:49.


Alphabet Inc. – Google’s Parent Company

Alphabet Inc. – Wikipedia

Alphabet Inc. is an American multinational conglomerate created in a corporate restructuring on October 2, 2015. It is the parent company of Google and several former Google subsidiaries. The two founders of Google assumed executive roles in the new company, with Larry Page serving as CEO and Sergey Brin as President.

Originally posted 2017-03-18 10:48:33.

Inspirational/ Motivational, Mind

Become Who You Were Born to Be: We All Have a Gift. . . . Have You Discovered Yours?

Become Who You Were Born to Be: We All Have a Gift. . . . Have You Discovered Yours? - Brian Souza
Become Who You Were Born to Be: We All Have a Gift. . . . Have You Discovered Yours? – Brian Souza

I always felt inside that I had a gift.  That there was something so much bigger that I was here for.   That I had a purpose.   That every single thing that happened to me happened to me for a reason.  That I was to learn from my experiences for this ultimate purpose.    Today I feel I have found it.

That is amazing to me because life can be so hard sometimes.   You ask yourself “why me?”  I am here to tell you that if you can see past the pain and the hardship that there is a buried treasure just waiting for you to see.   That you are more than what you are going through today.

I remember growing up in a one bedroom apartment with my mom, dad and sister.   One bedroom.   It was so hard to share a room with my parents.   I had no privacy.  No place to cry alone or even a place to study alone.   My sister and I celebrated when I was 17 years old when I finally got my own room.   My own room meant the world to me.

My room allowed me to study in peace.   I became a book worm.    I loved to study and learn.   Psychology was my passion.  I loved it!   I could not get enough of self help books.   They were my escape.

I remember in high school when I took a college now class on Psychology 101 and actually got an award.   Now why did I not study Psychology?  As much as I loved it, I felt I would go crazy if I studied it.   I decided to go to college and take what my sister took.   Fashion.  Yes Fashion!

I took fashion and I was miserable.   I was in a class with students that loved to talk about textiles and all i wanted to study was the human brain.    I was a C student.

In my first quarter in college I was in a group dynamics class where I was the leader and I had to decide on the topic for the group.   I was actually going to the Dominican Republic with my dad on a trip and I decided to get a couple of books from the library on how to choose a career based on your personality.    Since I was in fashion and didn’t feel it was a good fit, I decided to learn about what I was experiencing.

I studied Myer Briggs Personality Types.   I studied how important it is to wake up in the morning and love what you do.   After my research and talking to my dad about how unhappy I was with fashion, I decided to not go into Psychology but instead to do Marketing which is more Psychology and Business intertwined in my opinion.   Consumer behavior.

I became a straight A student in Marketing.   I realized then that loving the subject you study is critical to your success.

So after a few years of working, I ended up reading this book.   This book reinforced what I had learned in college.    It talks about the most successful people and how by them following their passion they became successful.   We all have passions.   The difference is that some people focus on what they love and some ignore what they love.

This book will help you re-focus on your true purpose.   What you love.

I truly believe that if you are reading this it is for a reason.   That however it is that I met you that at this very moment you were meant to read this.   Crazy as it may be for me or you.

This book made me pay attention to my true gifts.   I recommend this book to anyone that feels stuck.   I guarantee it doesn’t happen right away.   Happiness does not happen overnight.   It takes work.  It takes determination.  It takes struggle.

When you want something so bad.  You will make it happen.   There are no excuses.

It took me forever to even get to write this.  I read like a thousand books for me to break free and numerous mentors.    It took work.   A lot of work.  Self doubt.  Insecurities.  You name it.


“Do you ever feel burned out, beat up, or just plain bored, wondering, “Is this all there is?” Do you ever feel trapped in a stressful job that leaves you unhappy and unsatisfied? Do you ever question if you’re doing what you’re supposed to be doing—if you’re fulfilling your life’s purpose? If so, you are not alone.

Like millions of Americans, Brian Souza found himself in this precarious position a few years back. Despite attending dozens of motivational seminars and devouring the best the self-help industry had to offer, Souza was left wanting more. The turning point came when he finally realized it wasn’t artificial motivation he was after; he was really searching for a legitimate reason to be motivated. Thousands of hours of research and countless interviews later, Souza finally uncovered the secrets he was looking for all along:

Just as musicians must make music, poets must write, and artists must paint, we all have a unique gift designed for a specific vocation that will bring both meaning and purpose to our lives. True joy and happiness will continue to elude us until we use that gift to become who we were born to be.

Become Who You Were Born to Be is a blueprint for discovering your unique gift and using it to realize your personal and professional potential. Souza’s program for achieving success in all areas of life reveals:

• Four steps to discovering your gift, uncovering your passion, and unlocking your purpose
• How to overcome fears and deal with change
• How to work passion into your profession
• Why a midlife crisis should be celebrated
• How to stop stressing and start living
• How to diagnose and fix flawed life patterns
• The untold secrets of top achievers

To illustrate his life-changing philosophy, Souza relates true stories of everyday people and world-famous celebrities—including Lance Armstrong, Amy Tan, Sylvester Stallone, Garth Brooks, and Oprah Winfrey—who became heroes by overcoming adversity and squeezing every ounce of opportunity from their gifts.” (amazon.com)

Become Who You Were Born to Be: We All Have a Gift. . . . Have You Discovered Yours?

Originally posted 2016-10-24 08:25:57.