One of the most difficult aspects of recovering from Narcissistic abuse, is having to watch the one that hurt you walk away completely unscathed. Many move on and behave like you and your relationship never even existed, while you are still deeply affected by the trauma.
It is so easy to be in our comfort zone and not make ourselves be vulnerable. It is so uncomfortable to be seen at times.
Putting yourself out there and not worrying about what people think is a challenge for many people.
This book really teaches you to “show up and let yourself be seen”. Brene Brown helps you understand, through her journey, how to live wholeheartedly with purpose.
If you want to learn how to live more freely and less vulnerable, read this book.
“Show Up and Let Yourself be Seen
Is vulnerability the same as weakness? “In our culture,” teaches Dr. Brené Brown, “we associate vulnerability with emotions we want to avoid such as fear, shame, and uncertainty. Yet we too often lose sight of the fact that vulnerability is also the birthplace of joy, belonging, creativity, authenticity, and love.” On The Power of Vulnerability, Dr. Brown offers an invitation and a promise – that when we dare to drop the armor that protects us from feeling vulnerable, we open ourselves to the experiences that bring purpose and meaning to our lives. Here she dispels the cultural myth that vulnerability is weakness and reveals that it is, in truth, our most accurate measure of courage.
“The Power of Vulnerability is a very personal project for me,” Brené explains. “This is the first place that all of my work comes together. This audio course draws from all three of my books – it’s the culmination of everything I’ve learned over the past twelve years. I’m very excited to weave it all into a truly comprehensive form that shows what these findings and insights can mean in our lives.”
Guidance and Insights for Wholehearted Living
Over the past twelve years, Dr. Brené Brown has interviewed hundreds of people as part of an ongoing study of vulnerability. “The research shows that we try to ward disappointment with a shield of cynicism, disarm shame by numbing ourselves against joy, and circumvent grief by shutting off our willingness to love,” explains Dr. Brown. When we become aware of these patterns, she teaches, we begin to become conscious of how much we sacrifice in the name of self-defense -and how much richer our lives become when we open ourselves to vulnerability.
“In my research,” Dr. Brown says, “the word I use to describe people who can live from a place of vulnerability is wholehearted.” Being wholehearted is a practice—one that we can choose to cultivate through empathy, gratitude, and awareness of our vulnerability armor. Join this engaging and heartfelt teacher on The Power of Vulnerability as she offers profound insights on leaning into the full spectrum of emotions—so we can show up, let ourselves be seen, and truly be all in.
Cultivating shame resilience—the key to developing a sense of worth and belonging.
Vulnerability as the origin point for innovation, adaptability, accountability, and visionary leadership.
Our emotional armory – how we use perfectionism, numbing, and other tactics to avoid feeling vulnerable.
The myths of vulnerability – common misconceptions about weakness, trust, and self-sufficiency.
Discovering your vulnerability armor – recognizing what makes us shut down, and how we can change.
The 10 guideposts of wholehearted living – essential skills for becoming fully engaged in life.
Six hours of stories, warm humor, and transformative insights for living a life of courage, authenticity, and compassion from Dr. Brené Brown.” (audible.com)
“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy – the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” Brene Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection
Brene Brown The Power of Vulnerability
“Daring greatly means the courage to BE VULNERABLE. It means to show up and be seen. To ask for what you need. To talk about how you’re feeling. To have the hard conversations.” Brene Brown
Anxiety is a normal reaction to stressful situations. But in some cases, it becomes excessive and can cause sufferers to dread everyday situations.
“What Is Anxiety?
Anxiety is a normal reaction to stressful situations. But in some cases, it becomes excessive and can cause sufferers to dread everyday situations.
This type of steady, all-over anxiety is called Generalized Anxiety Disorder. Other anxiety-related disorders include panic attacks—severe episodes of anxiety which happen in response to specific triggers—and obsessive-compulsive disorder, which is marked by persistent intrusive thoughts or compulsions to carry out specific behaviors (such as hand-washing).”
“From Rhonda Byrne, creator of the international bestselling movie and book, The Secret, comes HERO, her latest world-changing project and the most important to date.
FROM ZERO TO HERO… YOUR SECRET MAP TO A RICH LIFE
What is your true calling and why aren’t you already living it?
Imagine if there was a map that showed you step by step how to get from where you are now to your true calling and the life you were born to live – the most brilliant, rich, fulfilling, and dazzling life you could ever dream of. You are holding in your hands such a map. HERO is the map for your life.
By following the journeys of twelve of the most successful people on the planet today, you’ll learn how to use your inner powers to overcome obstacles and to make impossible dreams come true. You’ll be inspired to find your own calling and start taking the steps toward making the life of your dreams an everyday reality. Be the hero you are meant to be.” (audible.com)
“The Secret revealed the law of attraction. Now Rhonda Byrne reveals the greatest power in the universe: The Power to have anything you want.
In this book you will come to understand that all it takes is just one thing to change your relationships, money, health, happiness, career, and your entire life.
Every discovery, invention, and human creation comes from The Power. Perfect health, incredible relationships, a career you love, a life filled with happiness, and the money you need to be, do, and have everything you want, all come from The Power.
The life of your dreams has always been closer to you than you realized, because The Power – to have everything good in your life – is inside you.
To create anything, to change anything, all it takes is just one thing – The Power.”
The term meditation refers to a broad variety of practices that includes techniques designed to promote relaxation, build internal energy or life force (, , , etc.) and develop compassion, love, patience, generosity, and forgiveness. A particularly ambitious form of meditation aims at effortlessly sustained single-pointed concentration meant to enable its practitioner to enjoy an indestructible sense of well-being while engaging in any life activity.
I had listened to The Secret at some point in my life and for some reason it did not capture me the way I expected. After a few years I was re-introduced to The Secret and I was ready this time to really listen. You see sometimes in our lives we are not ready to learn certain things. We could be frustrated or we are just not receptive. That is okay.
“When the student is ready the teach will appear” I live by this quote because it is so true. You must be ready for the learning to absorb it.
I recommend you watch the netflix version because it visually shows you what this book is about.
“It has been passed down through the ages, highly coveted, hidden, lost, stolen, and bought for vast sums of money. Fragments of this Great Secret have been found in the oral traditions, in literature, in religions and philosophies throughout the centuries. It has been understood by some of the most prominent people in history: Plato, Galileo, Beethoven, Edison, Carnegie, and Einstein, along with other renowned inventors, theologians, scientists, and great thinkers.
For the first time, all the pieces of the Secret come together in an incredible revelation that will be life transforming for all who experience it.
In this audiobook you will discover the Secret, and you will learn how to have, do, or be anything you want. You will learn how to use the Secret in every area of your life. You will hear from modern-day teachers – men and women who have used the Secret to achieve health, prosperity, relationships, and happiness. They share their incredible stories of using the Secret to eradicate disease, acquire massive wealth, overcome obstacles, and achieve what many would regard as impossible. Through them, you will begin to understand the hidden, untapped power that is within you, and the true magnificence that awaits you.” (audible.com)
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is an anxiety disorder that may develop after exposure to a terrifying event or ordeal in which severe physical harm occurred or was threatened. Traumatic events that may trigger PTSD include violent personal assaults, natural or unnatural disasters, accidents, or military combat.
Anyone who has gone through a life-threatening event can develop PTSD including military troops who served in wars; rescue workers for catastrophes like the 2001 terrorist attacks on New York City and Washington, D.C.; survivors of the Oklahoma City bombing; survivors of accidents, rape, physical or sexual abuse, and other crimes; immigrants fleeing violence in their countries; survivors of earthquakes, floods, and hurricanes; and those who witness traumatic events. Family members of victims can develop the disorder as well.
PTSD affects about 7.7 million American adults, but it can occur at any age, including childhood. Women are more likely to develop the disorder than men, and there is some evidence that it may run in families. PTSD is frequently accompanied by depression, substance abuse, or anxiety disorders. When other conditions are appropriately diagnosed and treated, the likelihood of successful treatment increases.
Roughly 30 percent of Vietnam veterans developed PTSD. The disorder also has been detected in as many as 10% of Gulf War (Desert Storm) veterans, about 6% to 11% of veterans of the Afghanistan war, and about 12% to 20% of veterans of the Iraq war.
Other factors in a combat situation can add more stress to an already stressful situation and may contribute to PTSD and other mental health problems. These factors include what you do in the war, the politics around the war, where it’s fought, and the type of enemy you face. Another cause of PTSD in the military can be military sexual trauma (MST). This is any sexual harassment or sexual assault that occurs while you are in the military. MST can happen to men and women and can occur during peacetime, training, or war. Among veterans using VA health care, about 23 out of 100 women (23%) reported sexual assault when in the military, 55 out of 100 women (55%) and 38 out of 100 men (38%) have experienced sexual harassment when in the military.
PTSD is diagnosed when the stress symptoms following exposure have persisted for at least a month. When symptoms develop immediately after exposure, the condition may be called acute stress disorder.
Complex PTSD, also known as disorder of extreme stress, is found among individuals who have been exposed to prolonged traumatic circumstances, especially during childhood, such as childhood sexual abuse. Research shows that many brain and hormonal changes may occur as a result of early, prolonged trauma, and contribute to troubles with learning, memory, and regulating emotions. Combined with a disruptive, abusive home environment, these brain and hormonal changes may contribute to severe behavioral difficulties such as eating disorders, impulsivity, aggression, inappropriate sexual behavior, alcohol or drug abuse, and other self-destructive actions, as well as emotional regulation (such as intense rage, depression, or panic) and mental difficulties (such as scattered thoughts, dissociation, and amnesia). As adults, these individuals often are diagnosed with depressive disorders, personality disorders, or dissociative disorders. Treatment may progress at a much slower rate, and requires a sensitive and structured program delivered by a trauma specialist.” (PsychologyToday.com)
History is full of bizarre reports. Ancient soldiers would go blind despite no physical injury. Shakespeare wrote of maladies afflicting warriors and kings, where their mind began to churn and broil without any injury. In the U.S. Civil War, many of the soldiers coming home had difficulties in the field or returning to their normal lives.
I remember seeing this woman live in Manhattan. Reading this book and seeing her live literally changed my life. It allowed me to see fear in such a different light. One of the key things I learned from this book was the feeling of not feeling “good enough”. She taught me to not diminish my feelings and act like it wasn’t a big deal what happened to me as a child. We work so hard sometimes to be tough and literally build a wall around us. That wall serves a purpose. To protect us. The only problem is as you get older you realize the wall that helped to protect you actually hurts you and alienates you from the world. You create a sort of prison that prevents you from getting out or letting anyone in. This book is a must read.
“For more than ten years, Fearless Living has been inspiring readers to take back their lives and “live the life their soul intended.”
As a survivor of personal trauma, Rhonda Britten understands the challenge of mastering fears-whether it’s a fear of rejection, looking stupid, not getting the job, or not being good enough.
With her acclaimed Fearless Living program, however, she has helped hundreds of thousands of people get unstuck, gain clarity of purpose, and take life-changing risks.
Featuring inspiring true stories and practical Fearbuster exercises, Fearless Living exposes the roots of our fears and gives us the tools to move beyond them. The result is a blueprint for success, happiness, and peace of mind.”
Unlimited Power Featuring Tony Robbins Live! By Anthony (Tony) Robbins(A) [Audiobook]
“Yes, you can do, have, achieve, and create anything you want out of life. Anthony Robbins has proved it. Robbins, the undisputed master of the magic of mind power, shows you in this audio program how to harness yours. He demonstrates passionately and eloquently that whatever you think will be, that your state of mind determines what you can and can’t do, and that all successful results can be modeled and duplicated. His enthusiasm is contagious as he shows you how to:
Reprogram your mind in minutes to eliminate fears and phobias
Fuel your body with spectacular health and energy
Dramatically improve your interpersonal relationships
Become a persuasive communicator and create instant rapport with anyone you meet
Use the success of others to remodel yourself
Discover the five keys to wealth and happiness
Master the ultimate success formula
Robbins calls Unlimited Power the new science of personal achievement. You’ll call it the best thing that ever happened to you.” (audible.com)
When it comes to fruit, it’s usually easy to decipher exactly which fruit is which simply by sight. It’s literally an exercise in comparing apples to oranges. But that’s not always the case. Take, for instance, plantains. At first glance, it’s just as easy to confuse a plantain with a banana, and for good reason.
I remember listening to an Anthony Robbins audiobook a few years ago and I was sitting at my desk at work. I was working at a company for over 10 years and at this point I was probably there for maybe 7 years and I was not getting paid at all what I felt I was valued at.
I was highly motivated and always tried to do more but was not getting paid more for the more I brought to the table. Not only was it frustrating but I felt helpless.
As I’m listening to my audiobook, Anthony Robbins says “JUST TAKE ACTION” and do what you need to do to make the change happen. I decided to unplug my earphones and go ask for a raise. Now I usually would have prepared for this but I decided that I wanted to just do it.
I go to the boss’s office and say I want a raise and proceed to say that I am valued at this amount. He immediately says I cannot give you a raise. I was so determined because of Anthony Robbins that I said It is okay if you cannot give me a raise right now but I want you to know that I know that I am valued at this amount and I felt it was right to let you know.
A few months later or a year later I happen to get a raise. Now I wasn’t where I wanted to be but I learned if you don’t ask you don’t get. ASK! Take action!
“I know that no matter where you are in your life, you want more! No matter how well you’re already doing or how challenged you now may be, deep inside you there lies a belief that your experience of life can and will be much greater than it already is. You are destined for your own unique form of greatness.”
Anthony Robbins has already unlocked the personal power inside millions of people worldwide. Now, in this revolutionary new audio production based on his enormously popular Date with Destiny seminars, Robbins unleashes the sleeping giant that lies within all of us, teaching us to harness our untapped abilities, talents and skills.
The ultimate program for improving the quality of every aspect of your life (personal or business, physical or emotional) Awaken the Giant Within gives you the tools you need to immediately become the master of your own fate.” (www.audible.com)
If trying to boost your mood leaves you unhappy – or you just keep sinking back into unhappiness – it’s not working. Don’t give up, but do consider an alternative approach. To feel happy, sometimes you first need to embrace being upset.
One of my observations is that sometimes when we experience pain from a traumatic experience or stay stuck in the past… we tend to avoid remembering, can’t remember or want to distract ourselves to not think about the experience or negative thoughts. What happens is we suppress those thoughts and emotions because they are too painful to handle or at least we believe they are too painful to handle so we avoid them but distracting ourselves.
The biggest issue I find with avoiding, suppressing and distracting ourselves is that we are not happy. How can we be happy if we are only living part of life and not allowing ourselves to live fully?
So far from my research on PTSD and Mindfulness I am realizing more and more that in order to heal we must be ready to deal with the uncomfortable feelings and emotions that we have been trying to avoid for so many years. The only way to develop is to fight not flight. To stop running and to start facing.
For many people this may sound easy but it is not. It is one of the most challenging things to do for a person that experienced pain in the past.
Stay tuned because the more I research this topic, the more I will be posting my observations.
I am no professional expert but I definitely have a lot of passion around this subject and want to help people break free of their emotional prison. People that have experienced pain or trauma deserve to live and unfortunately have stayed stuck on an event or numerous events in the past that have caused them pain…like a movie that keeps replaying itself.