Mind, Reprogramming the Mind

How to practice shifting your thoughts The meaning of life is made, not found.
Dr. Robert Holden asks us to reconsider the meaning we place on life events.


How to practice shifting your thoughts

The meaning of life is made, not found. Dr. Robert Holden asks us to reconsider the meaning we place on life events.

This is a great article but what I liked about it the most is this paragraph.

“The meaning of life is not a search—it is a choice. Meaning is not found in things; meaning is what you make of things. The world means nothing by itself. You give it all the meaning it has. Thus, the meaning of life is a choice you make, not just once, but every waking hour of your day. 

Life is like art—it is all about interpretation. The moment anything happens to you, you interpret a meaning for it. The meaning you vote for then governs your perception, your thinking, your faith, your choices, your feelings, your behaviors, everything! Whenever you elect a new meaning, this changes everything. Here is a great key to healing and success.

 An event occurs, and it is your interpretation and meaning that decide everything thereafter. “There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so,” wrote Shakespeare.”

Originally posted 2016-06-15 10:48:18.

Gratitude, Mind

The Science Behind Gratitude
(and How It Can
Change Your Life)
By Derrick Carpenter, MAPP


Being happy takes work!   I know a lot of people don’t get this but it does.   We need to practice certain things on a daily basis like gratitude.   Gratitude is not easy for some of us when we are constantly thinking about what we don’t have.   We need to try to focus more on being thankful for what we do have.

You know, we all have a story and we all have issues.   Sometimes the issues do get in the way of us being able to be thankful.   To be thankful of those things that we do have.

If I wake up cranky and in a bad mood it is hard to think about being grateful but it is something I must practice.   When you are going through a tough time in your life, it is very hard to think about what you do have when you don’t have what you do want.

This is a great article to help you start your gratitude journey.   Let’s practice this together!

Read the entire article by going to the link but I did copy and paste some of what I really liked below.

I like how the author says to have a Gratitude Journal.   That is something I am thinking of doing because it will help me stay focused on being thankful.    There are tons of apps that can be used for journaling and they do have passcode protection so that no one has to read your stuff.

Having a gratitude jar is also a great idea.   This can help you take action every day or very often to put something in the jar.


“Freshen Up Your Thanks

The best way to reap the benefits of gratitude is to notice new things you’re grateful for every day. Gratitude journaling works because it slowly changes the way we perceive situations by adjusting what we focus on. While you might always be thankful for your great family, just writing “I’m grateful for my family” week after week doesn’t keep your brain on alert for fresh grateful moments. Get specific by writing “Today my husband gave me a shoulder rub when he knew I was really stressed” or “My sister invited me over for dinner so I didn’t have to cook after a long day.” And be sure to stretch yourself beyond the great stuff right in front of you. Opening your eyes to more of the world around you can deeply enhance your gratitude practice. Make a game out of noticing new things each day.

Get Real About Your Gratitude Practice

Being excited about the benefits of gratitude can be a great thing because it gives us the kick we need to start making changes. But if our excitement about sleeping better because of our newfound gratitude keeps us from anticipating how tired we’ll be tomorrow night when we attempt to journal, we’re likely to fumble and lose momentum. When we want to achieve a goal, using the technique of mental contrasting—being optimistic about the benefits of a new habit while also being realistic about how difficult building the habit may be – leads us to exert more effort. Recognize and plan for the obstacles that may get in the way. For instance, if you tend to be exhausted at night, accept that it might not be the best time to focus for a few extra minutes and schedule your gratitude in the morning instead.

Make Thankfulness Fun By Mixing It Up

University of Rochester partners in crime Edward Deci and Richard Ryan study intrinsic motivation, which is the deep desire from within to persist on a task. One of the biggest determinants is autonomy, the ability to do things the way we want. So don’t limit yourself—if journaling is feeling stale, try out new and creative ways to track your grateful moments. (Happify offers an endless variety of gratitude activities to choose from.) My fiancée Michaela decided to create a gratitude jar this year. Any time she experiences a poignant moment of gratitude, she writes it on a piece of paper and puts it in a jar. On New Year’s Eve, she’ll empty the jar and review everything she wrote. When a good thing happens, she now exclaims, “That’s one for the gratitude jar!” It immediately makes the moment more meaningful and keeps us on the lookout for more.

Be Social About Your Gratitude Practice

Our relationships with others are the greatest determinant of our happiness. So it makes sense to think of other people as we build our gratitude. Robert Emmons suggests that focusing our gratitude on people for whom we’re thankful rather than circumstances or material items will enhance the benefits we experience. And while you’re at it, why not include others directly into your expression of gratitude? One Happify activity involves writing a gratitude letter to someone who had an impact on you whom you’ve never properly thanked. You could also share the day’s grateful moments around the dinner table. The conversations that follow may give you even more reasons to give thanks.”

Originally posted 2016-06-14 11:57:28.

Abuse, Links, Mind


Bullying is a big deal and learning about it is critical.

If you are are a parent to a child or teenager read below and do something about it.

If you are a child or teenager and are being bullied and reading this, please learn and do something about it.   Do not allow this behavior to take over your life.    If you need help and no one is helping you, reach out to someone else that may be able to do something about it.    You do not deserve it!

If you do see someone that has no friends and is alone, be their friend.   Sometimes, one friend is all that is needed.   Lastly, do not be a bully.   If you are reading this and you are mean to someone, stop!

Knowledge is power.


Check this video out.

The Bully Movie



This was copied and pasted from the link above.

“Parents play a key role in preventing and responding to bullying. If you know or suspect that your child is involved in bullying, there are several resources that may help.

  • Recognize the warning signs that your child is involved in bullying. They could be being bullied, bullying others, or witnessing bullying.  Although these signs could signal other issues, you should talk to your child if they display any sort of behavioral or emotional changes.  Many times kids won’t ask for help, so it is important to know what to look for. If your child is at immediate risk of harming himself or others, get help right away.
  • Learn what bullying is and what it is not. Understanding what bullying is is the first step in forming a plan to prevent or respond to bullying with your child. Many behaviors that look like bullying may be just as serious, but may require different response strategies.  You can also learn about:
  • Cyberbullying often requires different strategies than in-person bullying.  Learn how to work with your kids to prevent cyberbullying and how to respond when it occurs.
  • Utilize tips and tools to talk to your child about bullying. Opening lines of communication before your child is involved in bullying makes it easier for them to tell you when something happens. It is also important to work with a school to help prevent bullying before it starts.
  • If you know or suspect bullying has occurred, learn how to find out what has happened with your child. Understanding what has happened can also help in communicating with school or community officials about the situation.
  • If you have determined bullying has occurred, learn how you and school or community officials can work together to support your child, whether they were bulliedbullied others, or witnessed bullying.  Learn also about considerations for specific groups.
  • If bullying is occurring at school, learn about what your state requires schools to do in your state’s anti-bullying law. Learn also about federal laws that require schools to address harassment based on race, color, national origin, sex, and disabilities and ways to report situations that have not been adequately addressed to the U.S. Departments of Education and Justice.
  • If you have worked with your child and your school and need additional assistance, find resources to help address the situation.”


Originally posted 2016-06-11 22:52:06.

Mind, The Self

How To Love Yourself First
The least-honored–and most powerful path to self-love
Ken Page L.C.S.W. Ken Page L.C.S.W.

Read the entire article by clicking on the link but I extracted what I liked below.



How To Love Yourself First

The least-honored–and most powerful path to self-love

Ken Page L.C.S.W. Ken Page L.C.S.W.

“The great psychoanalytic theorist Donald Winnicot said, “Only the true self can be creative and only the true self can feel real.” I would add that only the true self can bear the risk of deep intimacy.

Every time we face the choice to share our deeper self, we stand at a precipice. Often, it’s just too scary to take the step forward.

Imagine taking a pet you love and putting it in a yard with an invisible electric fence. When it moves outside its allowed space, it gets stunned by an unexpected shock. It will only take a few jolts before your pet gets the message: if it goes too far, punishment will be instantaneous. In a short period of time, your pet won’t act as if the borders even exist; it will simply avoid them. If pushed closer to the danger zone, it will exhibit increasing signs of anxiety. The world outside the fence just isn’t worth the pain.

Now imagine turning off the charge from the invisible fence, and then placing a bowl of food outside its perimeter. Your pet might be starving, but it will still be terrified to enter into the newly free space. And when it finally crosses the line, it does so with trembling; anticipating the pain of new shocks. It is the same with us; even though we yearn for the freedom of our true self, some deep reflexive instinct still tries to protect us from being hurt again.”


Originally posted 2016-06-11 20:19:48.


10 Ways We Get the Odds Wrong

10 Ways We Get the Odds Wrong

Is your gym locker room crawling with drug-resistant bacteria? Is the guy with the bulging backpack a suicide bomber? And what about that innocent-looking arugula: Will pesticide residue cause cancer, or do the leaves themselves harbor E. coli? But wait! Not eating enough vegetables is also potentially deadly.


Originally posted 2016-11-26 08:57:57.